Period of waiting

In tamil there used to be a saying "Aaka poruthavanuku Aara Porukalaya". It means, people who were patient till the food got cooked can't wait till it gets warm to consume. The same thing applies to my mindset now. If anyone knows our story, they will understand this. We have been married for five years and coming June we will be celebrating our 6th year anniversary. It was an awesome experience when I got married. Marriage is a licence, in Indian Societies, to grow your family. People if they have a child without getting married are considered chaste. It is illegal. In foreign nations it is common. In Australia they have announced 1000AUD as christmas bonus to those young mothers below the age of 21 who are not working. Here if you do the same you will be treated as an "Alien". It is also true that because of all these practices that Indian population is not growing many folds at a single time. The current population is a result of so many years.

Coming back to me, after we got married everybody started expecting that my wife should give birth the tenth month. It is not necessary that all those who got married to their love should have a child in 10 months. The same is the case that when a couple gets married, arranged by their parents, they should wait for sometime to get a child. People used to say they have to have a plan to give birth to a child as the couple would require time to understand each other. But practically this is not true and this does not happen. It depends on the couple too. But the society does not understand that. The moment a couple gets married the next job is to give birth to a child. It might take sometime due to lots of factors.

In our case, my wife got pregnant twice. But unfortunately both the time the little baby got aborted. We were devastated but didnt loose hope. This happened within our first anniversary. Doctor advised us to be carefull for an year's time. So that means the second anniversary. But after when she didnt get preganant people started to advice in all angles. We were asked to visit temples praying for a child. But only we know the pain we had in our mind. But nobody understood it and just kept on asking when are you getting a child. As if we can buy it from a shop. Atlast now again she is preganant and we are expecting our new born in the month of July. It is a proud and a satisfactory moment for us. We both were waiting for long time but now we both expect that july should come soon. Now I guess the first line of the blog is justified.